This week I’m going to be looking at this whole ‘online dating’ era from a slightly different perspective. If you’ve read my ‘about’ page you will have seen I’ve promised to look at both the negatives (something I have definitely covered in my other posts) and advantages of dating in the digital age. But I’m sure you’ve been questioning, where exactly are these advantages?
Well, I think it’s finally time to admit… there are some positives to online dating. Despite my major scepticism for the most part, I have close friends who seem to have met ‘the one’ (all fingers crossed) online. Most of them are majorly fussy to say the least (you know the drill… “he’s not over 6ft, I can’t be with him”) or are super shy and couldn’t bear to go on a first date with someone they haven’t spoken to properly before. Yet, thanks to sites like Tinder and Bumble, they’ve found their perfect match!
Check out my friend Issie and her boyfriend Aiden for example – they’ve been together one whole year together after meeting on Tinder:
Based on what I’ve learnt from my friends, plus my research so far for this series, I’m going to be sharing what I personally think the top 5 best things about online dating are…
1. there is someone for everyone
At number 1 we have, of course, the endless choice there is for just about anyone and everyone.
This is something I have definitely learned from my friends. As I said, some are very picky and, believe it or not, have never found anyone they fancy in the ‘real-life world’ as you may call it. Yet, I’ve physically watched these same people swiping right, right and right again on Tinder (they swipe left a lot too obvs… but that just shows the amount of choice really doesn’t it?)
Basically, online dating means that if you have a particular ‘type’ you’re looking for, more often than not you’ll be able to find them whether this be based on looks, lifestyle or orientation! In the words of Emma Iversen, it “puts you firmly in the driving seat” – you can actually have a preference!
“Online dating puts you firmly in the driving seat when it comes to establishing a new relationship. You decide who you like and who you’d like to get in contact with.” Emma Iversen
2. It’s less intimidating than other methods of dating
Online dating means that you (usually) talk to someone long before you meet them in person.
As mentioned in my last post, you’re likely to be far more confident talking online than you are in person. Now, although I mentioned the disadvantages of this last time when it actually comes to going on a date, there are many positives before this point!
It’s great for shy people because you can get to know your potential date before you actually meet them! Let’s be honest – none of us are oblivious to the fact it is far easier talking to someone behind a screen than it is face-to-face, especially someone you don’t know that well. So, if you’re feeling a little nervous, just text your potential date until you’re comfortable enough to meet them. Simples.
3. It’s cheap!
This is one of my favourite advantages, because who has money to waste on people they’re never going to see again?
Most dating sites, like Tinder for example, are free while some have a very small monthly charge. Compare this to the amount you would be paying trying to meet ‘the one’ in real-life! If you’re wondering what I mean then consider how much a taxi, dinner and a trip to the cinema would cost, all for a date that might not work out! Fast-forward a week and you’re doing the same again… and then again.
Online, you can talk to as many people as you want, pretty much free of charge. After a few conversations you’ll know whether the person is worth a shot and if not, you haven’t wasted a penny.
Perfect for all you students who already have high debts… believe me I sympathise.
4. It’s so easy!
Full-time student with lots of work and not much time to waste on random dates? No problem!
Online dating makes life easier for those with a busy schedule, or, if you simply can’t be bothered to go on date after date to find your future partner. You can talk to dates in front of the TV in your PJ’s… it doesn’t get much easier than that!
5. Rejection? Not a problem
So what if someone friend-zones you, or says you’re not for them.
I hate awkwardness, and embarrassment for that matter – hence why this is on my top 5 advantages. Getting rejected online is no problem – the chances are you won’t ever bump into them face-to-face so who cares?
On another note, it also makes it easier for you to reject people yourself without feeling awful! If they’re not for you it’s easy to put a stop to the conversation. You have more time to properly think about what to say without blurting it out as one big jumbled mess of “I just don’t… I’m not feeling… I mean I just don’t want you OK!”
So, there you have it, my top 5 best things about online dating. Don’t get me wrong, my scepticism still remains but it was definitely time for me to face the facts that online dating is, in some ways, a step in the right direction when it comes to our love lives. The question is, do the positives outweigh the negatives? Or is online dating still dangerous territory?
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