Hello and welcome to my first blog post, my fellow readers and 2 am Google browsers. Hope you all are well! In this blog post, I am going to be chatting about the common bisexuality myths that could be easily debunked, with some simple online resources that you can find with a simple Google or YouTube search. Hey those 2 am Google browsers – this one’s for you.

So how do we define a myth? Well, to simply put it, a myth is a lie. Or more cleverly put, “a widely held but false belief or idea”, as according to the Oxford Dictionary. Bisexuals may seem like a mystical bunch, kind of like a ‘takes one to know one’ and if you know one, you probably won’t fully know any other bisexual stranger as we are all different. But rightfully so, we humans respect the truth and if you search for Myths about Bisexuality, the digital world, or your favourite search engine, will helpfully debunk some of these famous ones:

Number One!

“Bisexuality means that bisexuals cheat more easily”

Many pages that you will find on your favourite search engine will provide you with answers to
this age old idea that just because you swing both ways it means you lack any sort of emotional empathy for people’s feelings.

Resource that disproves the bisexuality myth:

As it is talked about in an article by Psychology Today, this myth is one of many that, let’s say, shrouds the bisexual community in some negativity, and comes from the idea that “one partner can not fully satisfy a person who is attracted to both genders” and that eventually we perpetuate a greediness by pursuing “someone of the gender that…” our boyfriend or girlfriend “…is not“. This online article, further confirms the true fact that a sexuality of a person does not directly cause cheating (maybe people cheat because they’re just THAT kind of person?). The article also credits a 10 year long study, by a PhD Psychology scholar Lisa Diamond in finding out that “89% of bisexual women were in monogamous, long-term relationships“, much like I, a bi woman, am in one right now. Relatable, but alas, bisexuals just have more choice.

Number two!

“Bisexuality means that you just have one foot in the closet”

For all the clueless readers out there who may not know the term of “being in a closet”, this myth doesn’t say that bisexuals like to hide in wardrobes for fun or because they really don’t like answering the door to random strangers and the vibes coming from an overpacked storage unit are JUST right (but I am one of those people, don’t @ me). The term being in a “closet” usually describes someone who hasn’t unveiled themselves to be of any
identity that isn’t straight.

Resource that disproves the bisexuality myth:

The myth of the bisexuals only being bisexual to semi come out to the world is helpfully debunked in an article written by LiveAbout, where the myth is stretched to include the presumption that bisexuals are confused and they do not know what the heckity heck they are doing. The article confirms that “there are varying degrees of bisexuality” and some bisexuals are perfectly able to either “lean straight” and prefer the “member of the opposite sex” with the same sex being an option for them, or “lean gay” and it being the other way round. Yes, there are some people who end up coming out as gay, after identifying themselves to be bi, but we all know that any kind of gay, is perfectly okay.

Number three!

“Bisexuals aren’t bisexuals if they only ever had straight relationships/they are currently in a straight relationship”

This one, could be accurately described as a myth that is close to my bi heart, because to tell you the truth, your girl has never been in a same sex relationship. But here I am, talking about bisexuality, as
a self identified bisexual. Absolute madness, right? Well, to bluntly put it, regardless of your dating past, YOUR SEXUALITY IS VALID, no matter what it would be!

Resource that disproves the bisexuality myth: 

In a YouTube video, bisexual/pansexual YouTuber ItsAmandaWan describes the struggle of being perceived as straight when she is dating people of the opposite sex to her. She debunks the myth of perceived heterosexuality, that is even sometimes held by
“people in the LGBTQ community…”,  reasserting the truth by stating that:

“Being bi and being in a heterosexual relationship does not make someone … any less bi… than another person who is dating the same gender”

Here is the full video for y’all to watch:

Conclusive thoughts

There are certainly an issue surrounding the dismissal of the bisexual community in the LGBTQ+ world, especially on social media. Popular hashtags such as #BiVisibilityDay, that I’m going to be chatting about in later posts (check out the post here!) help bring up the conversation about this issue and hopefully will help with destroying bisexuality myths in the future!

It can be suggested that this is where the present lack of knowledge comes from and some of these myths are helpfully debunked by easy research on the digital web!

Hope that this blog post taught you more about the digital impact on Bisexuality and the online research that could be done easily, about the facts and not the myths about being bi. Thank you for reading and see you in my next post 🙂

Credit to the original authors and creators of the content featured in this article:

Diamond, L. M., 2008. Female bisexuality from adolescence to adulthood: Results from a 10-year longitudinal study. Developmental Psychology [online], 44, 5-14.

ItsAmandaWan, 2018. BEING BISEXUAL IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP 

[video, online]

. YouTube : ItsAmandaWan. Available from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BO0Mil4BqFw [Accessed 9 November 2018].

Joel, S., 2014. 3 Myths About Bisexuality, Debunked By Science [online]. New York: Psychology Today. Available from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-decisions/201405/3-myths-about-bisexuality-debunked-science [Accessed 9 November 2018].

Johnson, R., 2018. Top Myths About Bisexuality [online]. Available from: https://www.liveabout.com/top-myths-about-bisexual-men-1410729 [Accessed date 9 November 2018].

Oxford University Press, ca. 2018. Definition of myth in English
[online]. Oxford: Oxford University Press. Available from: https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/myth [Accessed 8 November 2018].

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