Hey guys! Hope you have enjoyed all of my blog posts. Tonight’s post is the first @goodvibesonly podcast and I had the help of Capryce Dunning and Abi Mansfield who helped me make it possible. They are both University students and found my blog post very relatable. We discussed a few of my blog posts and some of their personal experiences when using social media.


Women are rewriting the rules of social media

Women are rewriting the rules of social media

Who says women can’t make their own rules when using social media? It’s 2019 and it’s time to make a stand! No more hesitations and overthinking. Something I’ve learnt over the years is to never question whether or not to post on social media. Women need to feel more comfortable in posting whatever content they wish (as long as it’s appropriate of course). The issue stems from “internet trolls”, friends and family who have the power to completely change one’s opinion of that picture/video. 

In 2017, Niamh McDade from The Royal Society of Public Health stated “On the face of it, Instagram can look very friendly. But that endless scrolling without much interaction doesn’t really lead to much of a positive impact on mental health and wellbeing”

Women are slowly but surely rewriting the rules of social media. An excellent example of this is Jameela Jamil’s blog called “I Weigh” which has travelled it’s way through Instagram and other social media platforms with the hashtag #IWeigh. Jameela had come across an image on the explore page of Instagram which showed the Kardashian sisters with their respective body weights plastered across each of their bodies (and let’s be real, the numbers weren’t high in the slightest) Logically, female instagrammers will look at this post and compare themselves to the celebrities’  petite figures, which naturally, will lower their self-esteem.

Jameela was outraged by this as weight should not matter “It’s so belittling and abusive. We are subliminally bullied all day by the magazines, the side bar of shame, social media, and by each other.” This incident, inspired Jameela to challenge women to measure themselves by their achievements. She did this, by posting an Instagram story of herself with the caption: “I weigh: I’m financially independent, I laugh every day, I love my job, I speak out for women’s rights, I like myself despite everything I’ve been taught by the media to hate myself about” further saying that an hour after posting, women began sending their own versions of #IWeigh. It quickly became a trend and there were too many to keep up! “The pictures were amazing. None of them were posed and filtered, nobody was contoured to within an inch of their life, or sucking anything in” Women are being reminded of their worth, importance and intelligence by this sort of empowerment online. Regardless of society’s expectations, YOU are free to post anything.

Let’s make some social media rules for all you ladies, who may struggle to just click “Post”:

  1. NEVER doubt your beauty and self-worth when posting a great selfie. Just do it!
  2. SHOW your self-confidence to the audience and more importantly, all the haters.
  3. AVOID deleting content just because you’re told “it’s not cute enough, I think you can do better” NO! It’s your social media, which means freedom of expression is at the palm of your hands.
  4. DON’T ever compare yourself or your posts to other women. It’s can be damaging to your self-confidence.

I hope you have enjoyed my fourth blog post and follow my social media rules! Stay tuned for my podcast that will be posted shortly. Whilst you’re here make sure to follow my Twitter and drop me a comment with any questions you may have @goodvibesonlybu

Digital Media boosting women’s self-esteem – “Blogging”

Digital Media boosting women’s self-esteem – “Blogging”

Creating a blog can help boost women’s self-esteem. Let’s take a look at blogging for example, nowadays there are loads of successful empowering female bloggers who’s work inspire women across the world. One of the most successful bloggers and writers of 2018 is The Slumflower. Chidera Eggerue is best known for her book “What a Time to be Alone: The Slumflower’s guide to why you are already enough” and her online campaign #SaggyBoobsMatter, which has been a success in social media platforms like Twitter and Instagram. Interestingly, this hashtag is commonly used in women’s selfies where a bit of cleavage is shown as a way to empower other women and to reinforce the idea that saggy boobs are perfectly N.O.R.M.A.L.

The Slumflower also has a blog which consists of various different empowering posts regarding her life and social experiences. Chidera stated on the “SaggyBoobsMatter” blog “if you are having trouble accepting your body, please look at mine and look at how socially unacceptable my boobs are. But also look how bossy, snatched and GLOWY I look! I’m living my best life and my boobs aren’t going to stop me from meeting someone amazing” At the young age of 24, The Slumflower has created a very strong, positive public platform for herself, and young women who may struggle with their own insecurities. 

Her main goal is to demonstrate that women can in fact feel comfortable in their own skin and not live their lives according to society’s expectations and wishes, whether it be on social media or in everyday life. When Chidera appeared on the Lorraine Show in June 2018, she mentioned that, previous to her success she thought about going through the surgical route as she felt unhappy with her the way her breasts looked. She then realised that it would not be an option due to how expensive the procedure is and said “well maybe it is a bit cheaper to just accept it and love myself for who I am”. Chidera also went on to discussing social media and how cruel society can be when her physical appearance is not necessarily accepted “from the moment that we’re born, we are taught that you have got to fix yourself and seek approval from every single person around you” and this statement relates perfectly to the topic of this blog. 

“Blogging is so much more than just words and paragraphs” stated by the writer of “The Ugly Little Girl” It can lead you down an exciting and fulfilling path for not only you but your followers who have the opportunity to read your work. 

One of The Slumflower’s most powerful blog posts called “Letter To My Future Self” was one of her shortest posts yet very refreshing to read “Remember when they told you it was impossible to do it without them? Remember when you believed them?” Chidera has always been very public with her experiences with hate comments and overall disrespect she receives on social media. With a following of 199k followers on Instagram, a feed filled with vibrant images and more importantly, lots and lots of confident selfies which demonstrate self-love and happiness. She also never fails to include her favourite hashtag in her captions – #SaggyBoobsMatter. 

I don’t know about you ladies, but my very own “What a time to be alone” is currently on its way to be delivered by RoyalMail and I cannot wait to give it a read!

I hope you have enjoyed my third blog post! I hope you’ll enjoy my next one and a special podcast is coming soon. Make sure to follow my twitter @goodvibesonly for updates. 🙂


Selfie-Esteem “The Kardashian Effect”

Selfie-Esteem “The Kardashian Effect”

How incredible do you feel after you’ve taken a great selfie? I’m sure we can all relate that, when we look really good we want to share it with the world. Social media platforms such as Instagram and Snapchat have become embedded in the lives of many individuals. The “Selfie” has not only allowed women to feel more comfortable in their own skin, but also elevated their confidence. On the other hand, social media has had an impact on women’s self-esteem, body-dissatisfaction and body image.

Celebrities like the Kardashians who capture the world’s attention, with constant social media updates and their physical appearances are seen as inspiring but also damaging to the female community. Now why is that? Although the Kardashians are highly successful, the ladies’ social media accounts set extremely high standards of beauty that are essentially unrealistic and impossible to obtain. Not to mention the need to achieve a “Kardashian physique” that many women wish they had. 

Kim Kardashian, known as the most legendary Kardashian, loves to show off her beautiful “natural” curves in her revealing, over sexualised Instagram photos, when in reality, it’s all thanks to Dr. Simon Ourian. Am I right? Or am I right? Young girls seem to be idolising the wrong women, who share unrealistic body expectations which can lead them to focus purely on their appearance and eventually develop body and self-image issues. The Kardashian’s are known for having the perfect hourglass body with their small waist, wide hips and big breasts whilst insinuating it’s natural. Having overly wide hips and a tiny waist is not natural, therefore going to the gym 5 times a week will most definitely not help you obtain that “look”. If you disagree however, feel free to ask Dr. Ourian as I’m sure he will be able to clarify. 

The Kardashians are self-obsessed women, which is understandable as it is essentially what their careers are built on. In contrast, do we really want young women to have this outlook on their lives? That solely focusing on yourself will lead you to success and happiness? Let’s take a look at Kim K’s book of selfies “Selfish”, this woman has quite literally created a book purely dedicated to images of herself (and it’s actually been published). Will such narcissism empower other women to become better versions of themselves? Unfortunately I don’t believe that is the way it works.

Women are free to post as many selfies as they wish, whether they’re flawless or flawed. Beauty comes from within and what I have learnt from social media, is that, not even a Kardashian has the power to define how powerful and beautiful, a simple selfie can be. 

I hope you’ve all enjoyed my second blog post! Stay tuned for more posts coming very soon. Don’t forget to give my Twitter a follow @goodvibesonlybu so you can interact with me. Make sure to leave a comment bellow with any thoughts 🙂

Women and social media- The “Perfect” Feed

Women and social media- The “Perfect” Feed

Women, especially young girls are expected to live up to an impossible standard. The idea of a “perfect life” has become extremely unrealistic over the last couple of years, all due to social media. The constant comparison between women is what affects their self-confidence on a daily basis. How can we prevent this though? Could women eventually accept themselves for who they are rather than attempt to be someone else? In a recent poll, by a charity called Girlguiding, 35% girls aged between 11-21 said their “biggest worry online was comparing themselves to others”. This is not unusual, as a lot of women unintentionally compare themselves to others when using social media networks.

Let’s take a look at good ol’ Instagram shall we? With Instagram being one of the most iconic social media applications to ever be introduced, it is inevitable women are going to LOVE it. What’s not to love about creating a feed filled with selfies, videos and other exciting content? Although Instagram allows freedom of expression, women hesitate when posting content. “Is it pretty/sexy enough?”, “Will I get enough likes?”, “What will my friends think of this?”. Social media is no longer about posting what YOU like,  instead it’s about posting what other people want to see.

Taken from an article on The Guardian, 22 year old Julia Peters says I have friends who lose confidence and delete photos”, unfortunately this is very common amongst the female “instagrammers”. On many occasions, women  believe the picture they posted is no longer good enough for their feed, after a certain amount of time. Perhaps they had a change of heart and wish to completely transform their posts, or they simply forgot to edit out a pimple on one of their selfies. Either one, it shouldn’t matter. Originally, the image was uploaded because YOU enjoyed it and struggled to find anything wrong with it, so why delete it? There is a very high chance that if it was left for more than 5 hours, the majority of your following has probably seen it already. 

I want to clarify, that there is absolutely nothing wrong in wishing to change up your social media. However, deciding to delete content due to insecurities and social pressure is not okay! No one is perfect and one’s feed will most definitely never be perfect. Women should be confident enough to share whatever they wish with the world, regardless of what it may be or how the rest of society perceives it. 

Hope you have all enjoyed giving my first blog post a read! Make sure you’re following my Twitter @goodvibesonlybu to be up to date with my next posts!