The media has always shown the most ideal versions of men and women. In the past, women were told to look like Marilyn Monroe. Natural and curvy. Then slim and shapeless. Then thin and curvy at the same time. Men suffer through the same unrealistic expectations too and its time to count up the damage points.
Kylie Jenner has already spent thousands to make her body fit her desired shape and filled her lips to the perfect pout yet she is still caught editing her Instagram images to look even more unrealistically perfect. On Snapchat celebrities like Kylie still even use filters to further that unattainable ideal look. I’m not saying an average woman is going to see her snapchat and sob because they don’t have a cute dog nose and floppy dog ears but you know what I mean.
That thigh gap and figure after she just had a child? Really…?
But let’s not put other women down, there’s already enough people putting us down as it is. Including ourselves.
I don’t know anyone who hasn’t edited out a little spot from their Instagram picture or taken the same picture at least more than ten 12 times to get the right pose. The pose that makes that little pouch on their stomach look flat or that angle that hides your rolls but still makes you look curvy.
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Let me first say NEITHER OF THESE ARE BAD OR UGLY. – Both are fine. Both are my face. Just different angles from an accidental selfie to a posed selfie. We become to afraid of our face in different angles hiding double chins (what does that say to the people with permanently visible double chins, are they less worthy of feeling FINEEEE or having their photo taken… NOOOO). – Any variation of your face is cute. Any angle of your face is beautiful. Any picture of your face is totally fine. – Stop living in a 2D world and enjoy your angle filled face with all its glory, smile in photos and capture happiness not poses.
Where is Kendall’s Acne?
It’s all pointless to worry, though. In 2016 681.2 million people had acne and it’s still on the rise. It’s a stupidly common skin condition that destroys its host’s self-esteem. Yet we never see an actor or actress with it. Not even a single spot or blackhead. Where’s the representation that billions of teenagers and adults need?
So we edit it out and just like celebrities, we pretend it doesn’t exist.
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While there are much bigger problems happening in the world, suffering from acne for me was debilitating. It’s something that I’ve dealt with since I was a young teen and has caused me to feel anxious, helpless and insecure. As humans, I don’t think we share our insecurities enough because we live in a time where being “perfect” is the standard. We curate our life online and pick the pretty moments to post. I’d like to show a younger generation that not everything is perfect. Being insecure about my acne gave me thick skin but I wouldn’t ever wish that feeling upon anyone so after trying countless options, I found something that has been helpful in maintaining clear skin for me. It’s been a long journey but I’m excited for where my skin is now. I didn’t think I’d see the day where I would feel confident posting a makeup free picture. My goal is to open up a dialogue around skin positivity. ❤️
The Kardashians even went so far as to build up Kendall surviving a traumatic past… Kris called her an icon for representing those struggling with this unknown source of pain she apparently suffered through…
I’m so proud of my darling @KendallJenner for being so brave and vulnerable. Seeing you share her most raw story in order to make a positive impact for so many people and help foster a positive dialogue is a testament to the incredible woman you’ve become. pic.twitter.com/rJUXdN2Wmq
— Kris Jenner (@KrisJenner) January 5, 2019
Only for it to be A sponsored post for ProActiv. A skincare brand that specialises in acne management.
WITHOUT. EVEN. SHOWING. A. SINGLE. SPOT. OR SCARS. OR REDNESS.
I’m going to spontaneously combust if I see another post like that.
Hiding Behind Makeup
When I had acne I used makeup. As a woman, I had the privilege to use makeup without getting judged.
For girls at least we can have that option. If your nose looks big? Contour it. The bags under your eyes aren’t Gucci? Conceal them. There’s a fat spot on your face from your current diet of Pot Noodle and Pizza Hut? Foundation or concealer. The opportunities are endless. Unless you’re black, that is. Their given colour palettes tend to be much more limited. I’m looking at you Beauty Blender Bounce Foundation and Tarte Shape Tape Foundation….And basically all drugstore foundations brands…
For men, it’s entirely different. I know hundreds of men who have been self-conscious about their acne, bags under their eyes or weak jawlines. Yet I’ve only met one or two men in my twenty years of life that have even tried to wear makeup, despite the top makeup guru on Youtube being a nineteen-year-old boy named James Charles who even recently released his own eyeshadow palette.
Boy, does he make me feel like an underachiever…
The above is an image of James Charles recreating Zane Hijazi’s own Facetune version of himself onto his face.
Watch here, it’s pretty funny in all honesty.
Back to my point.
Men are berated for wearing a dab of concealer on even for having a skincare routine. Moisturising is not ‘gay’, it’s called self-care. In fact, it’s just hygiene. It’s like calling someone gay for having a shower. See how liking someone of the same gender and having greasy hair have exactly no correlation? Sadly, though, men are taught that women wear makeup and men don’t. So even though they can use apps like Facetune online, they don’t get to hide behind a little tinted-moisturiser.
Kim Kardashian Profits Off of How Much We Hate Ourselves
Like I said, I don’t like putting other women down
Kim Kardashian is endorsing the 22.5k people who saw this sponsored post on her Instagram to replace their meals with a milkshake.
Almost every person’s new year resolution is to diet or to go to the gym but people aren’t doing it for their health. They are doing it for the negative feelings associated with weight. Fat isn’t inherently a negative word but we made it so.
Stomach rolls are common, they’re just made of skin or fat.
But the media never shows them. The women we see are perfect celebrities endorsing workout videos as if they don’t also have a personal trainer on the side or fit-teas that give you diarrhoea.
Similar to how women are told to be petite and thin yet also tall and curvy, men are told to be muscled or skinny but never short.
When a man doesn’t fit into those categories as a celebrity, he is stuck in the role as the fat funny friend of the lead role.
The Funny Fat Friend
Take Jonah Hill, for example, he’s been nominated for Academy Awards and Golden Globes but due to his past roles as the funny fat friend he’s no longer taken seriously as an actor. Even after working with Leondardo Decarprio on The Wolf of Wallstreet, since he isn’t Hollywood’s version of ‘lead male material’ he was paid substantially less for a supporting role just to get out of comedy.
Even after losing weight Jonah faces abuse constantly. Weight is an unimportant and fluctuating factor and yet people are chastised and bullied for it. For an actor like Jonah, it also limits your offered roles severely. This means the only representation for average men and women who look like you and I are either negative or funny side-characters.
But this isn’t at all an accurate depiction to real life.
You aren’t a side character.
The media just needs to keep working on its diversity.
Isn’t that always the issue?
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