What is dating online really like for those in the LGBTQ+ community? Has it really had a positive impact or is there a side we are not shown?
The LGBTQ+ community is ever growing, a group which cannot be given a number. Although first recognised as LGBT the Q has since been added representing “queer”, as not everyone can put them self in a box (click here for more terms). It was not until 1990 when equality was given to those part of LGBTQ+. However, for some there is still a struggle. Despite this for many there have been many more benefits than negatives.
Since starting my blog I have noticed that many Twitter accounts and Blogs are more specifically targeted at straight people. After this realisation I knew I should do a post about LGBTQ+ dating as the internet has had a significant impact on this community.
I wanted to start this post with an instagrammer I have been following for several years now. It is only recently that Jamie Rose Dee has come out about his transition. The video below talks about his transition so far and what lies ahead for him. In many of his posts he has talked about dating and what it’s like for him now. From what I can see his transition process has given him a huge amount of confidence and enhanced his dating life!
Personally, I imagine that dating has become easier for LGBTQ+ members. a. Before the greater understanding of being gay many people felt that they had to suppress their true feelings and be someone they are not. Whereas now, there are apps available; Grindr, OKCupid, Bumble and Tinder. Although Grindr is the only specifically gay app listed, the other apps enable you to select who sees your profile.
It must be difficult for some members of the community to find love, especially in real life where you cannot necessarily know someones sexuality. As a straight person I am unable to comment on this but even for myself and other straight people you can develop a crush or spot someone when out and about but only to discover they are gay or lesbian. This just goes to show that this mis-identification can happen to anyone and implicate any random person’s dating.
I decided to reach out to a LGBTQ+ group on Facebook in order to gain an idea of whether the internet has been beneficial to them or whether it has left them in the same position.
I found that 9 out of the 15 who responded believe that the internet and dating apps has improved their dating life and 3 said it has not. The remaining 3 said it has had no impact.
One of the respondents who said no feels this way;
The internet can present problems with competitive behaviour of being the best partner or presenting how you look to your partner. The internet can also give false information about what to expect in relationships and how relationships work.
Two participants said they met their partners online.
- A woman met her girlfriend on Bumble and says it “was one of the best things ever”
- The man met his met his late husband of 12 years on the internet and said it was “the best that ever happened to me”
Even in 2019 people are still opinionated and against the idea of same sex relationships or being transgendered. This is something I hope will change especially with new laws and gay pride. You would have thought older generations would be accepting of this from all the change they’ve experienced in their life but many of them find it difficult to understand. Many parent’s of people in this community find it particularly difficult to comprehend and feel negatively about it But once they have talked to their child they get a better understanding of why they feel this way.
After completing my research on this topic, the internet has greatly impacted this community allowing them to come out or show their new persona online to others. The internet has enabled them to connect with people and to be able to find love. I would say the internet has enhanced these capabilities and made finding love easier.